MY COACHING APPROACH
It all starts with your story.
My story began in 1965. I blame The Beach Boys song Help Me Ronda for the creation of my Caretaking Part. I couldn't go anywhere in my twenties without meeting someone new and they belt out "Help me Ronda, help help me Ronda". My Caretaking Part has been such a huge aspect of my identity and feelings of self-worth. Taking care of my precious mother in my home for seven years until her passing is just one chapter of my story. My healing journey involved learning why my trauma experiences gave birth to my Caretaking Part and others like food addiction, perfectionism, control, people-pleasing, etc.
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As you write and bring light to your story, a deeper self-awareness emerges. You begin to connect the dots in so many ways. Why do you think the way you do? Why do you have so many of the feelings you experience? Why do you behave in certain ways? Why are you staying in unfulfilling relationships? Why do you allow people to treat you in ways you don't like? Everything starts making sense. You will see your life with more clarity than ever before.
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My coaching process may not appeal to everyone. Looking back takes courage. Looking inward takes compassion.
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"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek."
- Joseph Campbell
"Trauma blocks love. Love heals trauma."
My father died very unexpectedly from a heart attack at age 62 when my son was two weeks old. That year following my son's birth should have been filled with all the joys and wonderment of a precious new child and motherhood.
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I began counseling for the first time about a year later. I remember entering her office, placing my son in his carrier right next to me, collapsing on her couch and exclaiming "My dad died almost a year ago and I can't stop crying". Thus began my healing journey.
My counselor often recommended relevant books. I hated reading! But I trusted her, so I bought my first one in the self-help/personal development genre. Many were describing me and my family of origin. My thirst for understanding was born (hello Curious Part).
Twenty years and a hundred plus self-help books later, this remains one of my favorite pleasures.